Dating a guy with no kids
My greatest fear that my stepdaughters would hate me never came to pass. They made loving toasts to me and my husband at our wedding.In so many respects, I feel lucky, blessed, though it hasn't always been easy.Here's what I've learned about dating a man with kids: No relationship comes without risks or baggage for that matter.I would have missed out on a life-changing relationship if I made his single dad status a deal-breaker before I got to know him. Being in a relationship with a man who has taken on raising kids makes my life that much richer and rewarding, mostly in unexpected ways.Who needed to date someone with an ex and children in the mix, since dating was already complicated enough?
There was no way I'd ever get involved with a man who had that kind of baggage.
Who were just old enough to form their own opinions about Dad's new girlfriend? That was a whole new level of stress I didn't know how to prepare for.
I trudged up the rest of that mountain, taking in this daunting new piece of information. We are married, and I can say that those first several months of being together and getting to know his children was a tough, but truly valuable learning experience.
When you watch your boyfriend interacting with his kids, you see what kind of man he is, what he's capable of.
He was warm, kind, funny -- so different from the jerks I'd been dating. I wasn't opposed to having kids of my own -- in fact, I wanted them.
But taking care of someone else's kids who might not want me around?